Swinging Rules Of The Road

The one universal truth that we as a swinger couple have learned from many years of swinging is to tell the truth. And we are always amazed when that doesn't seem to happen. We have been members of several paid swinger sites in which swinger couples write a profile and post their pics. It has become almost commonplace for us to disbelieve the pictures and profiles that many post. It is always a shock when we have arranged to meet a couple in person and their appearance is so much different than their pics they posted.

Honesty is the best policy. When writing a profile, be as clear and honest as possible regarding what you expect and are looking for in another couple. Also, post pictures that are reasonably current. It will make for a more enjoyable first meeting if both couples have been honest in their profiles and the pictures of themselves. Needless to say, pictures that are ten or twenty years old are not acceptable.

Another issue that has arisen in some of our swinging experiences has been when one partner is actually not interested in swinging but has been "pushed" by his or her partner to give it a try. Bad idea. Never ever assume that your partner will be receptive once things start. We have had a few experiences that were pretty awful due to the fact that one of the partners was not interested in swinging. In our experience, it is usually the male half that is attempting to push his partner or spouse to swing.

Understanding what rules a couple has in regard to swinging is also important prior to playing. We as couple have very few rules but that varies from couple to couple. One of the most common rules that we come across is the no kissing rule. While it is odd to us, couples need to respect the rules of the other couple. It is wise as a couple to discuss among yourselves what rules you want to have in regard to swinging

Some of the most common rules are whether kissing is allowed, same room or separate room play, condoms or no condoms, and whether anal is ok. These are some of the frequent rules that we have encountered with other couples. It is always better to have discussed this by email or over the phone prior to playing instead of springing a set of rules when it is time to play.

Although it seems too obvious, it should be said that when meeting another couple, cleanliness is very important. No one wants to engage in play with a couple that does not practice good hygiene. Another area that sometimes occurs is a couple or one of the partners who drinks excessively. Needless to say that does not make for a great swinging experience and can lead to problems between the couples. It is always a good idea for the couples to express their preferences regarding drinking and smoking prior to meeting also.

If swingers will observe these basic rules, the swinging experience can be enjoyable and can lead to great relationships. After all, having sexual fun is what it's all about.