Spin The Bottle As Swinger Party Game

One of the things that happens at many swinger house parties is that there is inertia among the guests. No one wants to be the first to get things started. So games can be a great icebreaker for those times. This one is spin the bottle adult style.

This game is an old classic. Lots of folks played this game as kids, for kisses, or sometimes for a cheap feel.

The more “grown up” version of the game still works the same in basic mechanics. It’s usually best to have everyone playing sitting on the floor.

All players sit in a circle. After determining who goes first, that player places a bottle on it’s side in the middle of the circle, and gives it a spin. Whoever the bottle neck points to (or closest to) removes an article of clothes. In the event that player has lost all his or her clothes already, that player must perform a “favor” for the spinner.

A simple game for getting your friends naked. That’s all there is to it. Play proceeds in a clockwise manner until everyone is naked.

Game Variations

There are a few possible variations on the game. Rather than proceeding in a clockwise manner, the person who last had the bottle point to them may spin next.

This game can be combined with other classics, such as Truth or Dare, wherein the person the bottle points to is asked the question, or given a dare by the spinner.

Stakes, of course are easily modified to any preference. Spin for kisses, spin for sexual favors, use your imagination.

No Swinging In Our Town

A controversial social club that advertised on swingers web sites had its zoning application rejected by Emmaus, LeHigh County in Pennsylvania. Hundreds packed a meeting to hear the zoning hearing board's decision.

Many of the people opposed the social club because it was rumored to be a sex club for swingers. One resident said "We don't need this kind of garbage. In my opinion, it's like legalized prostitution. I don't want it in my neighborhood."

Swinging Big Business In U.S.

Matt who works as a consultant at a Washington law firm told Reuters that he spends more than $10,000 a year to attend conventions, hotels and clubs where he and his girlfriend can have sex with other partners.

"Any other hobby that I was into at 40 years old is going to cost me $10,000," he told the newspaper. "Dude, I'm addicted to it, there is no doubt about it."

Swinging has turned the lust and passion into a multimillion dollar business. Lifestyles Organization, the nation's largest swinger services company, has annual sales of about $15 million.

 Rick Conner, a swinger and author of an advice book for such couples, puts the number of swingers at 100,000 in the U.S. However, others have suggested the number is in the low millions

Mini-Riot At Swinger Sex Party

A tourist in north Queenslan.Australia who refused to take his clothes off at a swinger sex party has been blamed for "a mini-riot" at the nudist colony.

Police were called due to threats of violence and lewd behavior and ordered the Brisbane man and his wife from the adults-only "anything goes" sex party.

The owner said the "mini-riot" erupted when four naked female guests protested when confronted by the fully-clothed man. "They felt uncomfortable with him eyeing them off and I asked him to show some respect and take his clothes off," said the nudist colony manager.

Naked Montreal Swingers Flee Fire

Firefighters in Montreal are investigating the cause of a fire that forced those inside a swingers club in Montreal to flee in various states of undress. At the time of the fire, there were three employees and seven customers.

Five of the clients were trapped in rooms on a second floor. A fire department spokesperson was quoted as saying "They had sheets on them but they didn't have a lot of clothes on coming down (the ladder)."

Owner Of First Croatian Swinger Club Arrested

The first owner of a swinger club in Croatia has been arrested for facilitating prostitution. The sixty-three year old male has been charged with prostituting two girls in his club in the small Istrian town of Labinci. The man said that he brought the idea of a swinger club to Croatia from Switzerland where he lived for more than 30 years before moving to Istria.

He told the local newspaper that " You cannot come into Europe without a swinger club." He addes that "In Germany, you have around 100 such clubs, in Switzerland around 50 and in Austria around 30, and swingers, wherever they go for vacation and travel, are looking for similar offers." He faces up to six years in prison.

Posting A Swinger Profile

One of the best ways when considering joing a swinger site is to join up for FREE! Give the site a try and see how you like it. After joining a site, one of the mistakes often made by new swingers is rushing to get a profile up with little or no thought or planning.

One of the first things that you discover after hearing them say no one is looking at our profile is that the profile has no photos, poor headings and just a couple of lines for the description!

Swinging Increases In Canada

A Canadian Supreme Court decision has apparently been very productive in that cleared the way for swingers’ clubs in Canada.

The high court’s reinterpretation of the definition of indecency has sparked a growing interest in private clubs that feature group sex, partner swapping, voyeurism and exhibitionism.

The high court effectively legalized such clubs when it ruled that consenting adults who engage in sexual activity behind closed doors while like-minded people look on are not committing indecent acts.

Private club and swing club operators say the ruling has attracted significantly more people to their events.

You've Come A Long Way Baby: Sex Toys Used By Majority Of Women In U.S.

I have always liked the quote that has been attributed to the late comedian Lenny Bruce who was arrested numerous times for obscenity due to his nightclub act.

Speaking about his arrests on obscenity, Bruce supposedly told his audience that what he found obscene was the salaries paid to teachers in Nevada. Now flash forward to the current times and we have certain states that talk about obscenity in terms of sex toys.

The Supreme Court of Alabama last year upheld a state obscenity law banning the sale or promotion of sex toys.In 1998, the Alabama legislature passed an amendment to its obscenity laws that made it a crime to distribute "any device designed or marketed as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs for anything of pecuniary value."

Supposedly the purpose of the law was to protect children and unwilling adults from exposure to obscene materials and sexual aids. The Supreme Court of the United States may be taking up this law in the near future that will define more clearly the sexual freedom of an individual.

So what about sex toys? Are they only used by a distinct minority in the United States? According to a survey done by the makers of Trojan condoms, nearly half of all Americans use a vibrator.The study also indicated that more than 50% of women and 45% of men said they’ve used one, and vibrator users also rated themselves higher on sexual health indicators such as erectile function, level of desire, and frequency of genital self-exams.

Another perhaps more reliable study conducted by Indiana University and published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine says that fifty-three percent of women and nearly half of all men report having used a vibrator.We've come a long way baby if you examine past studies. Alfred Kinsey in 1953 and Shere Hite in 1976 concluded that vibrator use was “not appreciable” and “less than 1 percent.” Quite an increase.

Cougars Having More Sex

So do cougars have more sex? According to an article published in the July issue of Personality and Individual Differences, they do. The article points out that evolutionary forces also push women to be more sexual.

The study done by a University of Texas psychologist found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women.

The article reports that women ages 27 through 45 are having more sexual fantasies than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. In addition, they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands.

Chinese Swinger Jailed

A Chinese twice-divorced computer science professor has been sentenced to three-and-a-half years in prison for being a member of clubs that practiced group sex and partner swapping.. The fifty-three year old according to reports had been a member of informal swingers clubs that practiced group sex and partner swapping.

He also supposedly organized and engaged in at least 18 orgies, most of them in the two-bedroom apartment in Nanjing where he lived with his mother. The sentence of three and a half years in prison is a severe penalty for a crime that the Chinese government calls “crowd licentiousness.”

China Top Exporter of Sex Toys

China is not only the largest investor in our American debt but they have also emerged as the major exporter of sex toys for the world. According to China Daily, "China produces about 70 per cent of sex toys for the world." According to one Chinese sex toy manufacturer, fifty per cent of the customers are from the US and 30 per cent are from Europe.

The sex toy industry in China has more than 1,000 manufacturers and is worth about two billion dollars a year for the past few year. The China Market Research Center said that in just the first five months of this year revenue reached 940 million dollars. Products included such items as stimulus condoms, which account for 21.5 per cent of the market, according to the report. Other products range from vibrators, dildos and fetish clothes that are exported at prices ranging from 50 cents to $100.

The irony in all this is that China is a very conservative country where porn magazines, DVDs and websites are strictly prohibited.

Swingers and Threesomes

Look on any swinger site and you will find that a lot of the profiles by couples indicate that they are looking for another female in addition to a couple. Both the man and female love the thought of a threesome with another female. A majority of swinging females seem to be at the very least bi-curious so the thought of a female is a sensual experience.

And of course it's hard to find a man who hasn’t fantasized about a threesome.The problem is, for most, that they don’t know how to go about finding somebody to join them. The first thing to remember is that you need to know beforehand exactly who you’re looking for. If, for example, your wife isn’t interested in sex with another woman, there’s little point in answering ads from bi-sexual women. Similarly, if you’re a bi-sexual guy, you’ll want to find ads placed by couples who are looking for somebody who will service them both.

One thing that you should recognize is that you and thousand others are looking for that elusive single female for a threesome. In your profile and your responses, be as specific as possible as to what you are looking for and what you would like from the single female or male. We have been fortunate to have had many threesomes and they have all been great experiences.

When it comes to the two main types of threesomes, remember the following:

FFM: this means two females and a male and is the most common type of threesome. In most cases the females will be bi so it’s probably safe to assume so if nothing else is mentioned. It’s always worth asking to be sure, though.

FMM: you’ve probably guessed that this one means one female and two men. Although not as common as FFM, it’s a whole lot of fun and well worth experimenting with. The guys don’t have to be bi and in these cases, if they are they probably WILL mention it. Even if you’re mostly into FFM, you’ll probably find that most women will be only too pleased to be serviced by two guys. In addition, a lot of male partners enjoy watching their wives/partners with another male.

Evolution Of Swinging

The word "swinger" or "swinging" has had different meanings over the years. Today, the most common definition of the word refers to those people who engage in sexual activity with others in the "lifestyle."


Wikipedia defines "swinging" as "a non-monogamous behavior, in which partners in a committed relationship agree, as a couple, for both partners to engage in sexual activities (sometimes referred to as recreational social sex) with other people. "

One can trace the origins of swinging through a historical prism as the mores in the U.S. changed slowly and then dramatically to what it is today. The term has also morphed into "swinging" from such early terms as "key parties" and "wife swappers."

Some say that the origins of swinging in the United States can be traced back to the 50s according to Terry Gould's "The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers" According to the author, swinging began among U.S. Air Force pilots and their wives during World War II. In this small community, the mortality rate among pilots was significantly high. Gould reports that a close bond between pilots arose, with the implication that the husbands would protect and care for all the wives as their own, both emotionally and sexually, if the husbands were away or lost.

The best example of the swinging 70s was embodied in the movie "The Ice Storm" in which there is a scene where a couple played by Kevin Kline and Joan Allen attend a neighborhood party, which turns out to be a swinger's key party in which all the husbands toss their keys into a bowl. The women at the end of the evening will each pick a set of keys, going home with whomever's keys they've chosen.

The 80s also saw the concerns with AIDS but there was still a dramatic increase in "swinging" in the press and on television and cable as swing clubs and house parties became popular. It is safe to say that "swinging" has now become mainstream.

Although swinging is legal in most countries, we do see such repressive societies as China who deal harshly with swingers. In May 2010, a 53-year-old Chinese computer science professor, was jailed for three and a half years after being found guilty of arranging swingers parties.

It is not clear how many swingers there are in United States but an ABC report on the lifestyle several years ago estimated the number at four million.

The Reluctant Swinging Spouse

One of the first things that should be done before deciding whether to swing or not is for a couple to sit down and discuss the pros and cons of getting into the lifestyle. The first overriding question should be whether both partners are comfortable with having sex with others in the lifestyle. One of the spouses should never attempt to emotionally force the other to join the swinging lifestyle.

As a swinging couple, we have witnessed the consequences of one spouse attempting to force the other spouse to be in the lifestyle. We have been at house parties where it is quite apparent that one of the spouses is not comfortable with the swinging lifestyle. In most cases, it is usually the male that is urging the reluctant female to swing.

Forcing a reluctant spouse to participate in swinging can lead to consequences that are not a pretty sight. We experienced first hand one such case of a couple whose husband was pushing his wife to participate in the lifestyle. The male had frequently emailed me and had indicated that he and his wife were eager to meet other couples. After a series of public meetings and emails, the couple came to our home. The bottom line is that the couple ended up leaving with all parties being upset.

As a side note, before meeting a couple, you should always attempt to ask questions in order to make sure that both spouses are interested in the lifestyle. If you sense reluctance, move on. Most in the lifestyle do not want drama.

Some "Dos" For Swingers

Swinger "Dos":

• Try new things, be open minded.

• Communicate with each other.

• Keep your partner's comfort and security in mind at all time.

• Don't rush: Don't do something just because everyone else around you is doing it. This is a lifestyle and you have your whole life to enjoy it! One step at a time.

• Set limits and Stick to it.

Swinging Rules Of The Road

The one universal truth that we as a swinger couple have learned from many years of swinging is to tell the truth. And we are always amazed when that doesn't seem to happen. We have been members of several paid swinger sites in which swinger couples write a profile and post their pics. It has become almost commonplace for us to disbelieve the pictures and profiles that many post. It is always a shock when we have arranged to meet a couple in person and their appearance is so much different than their pics they posted.

Honesty is the best policy. When writing a profile, be as clear and honest as possible regarding what you expect and are looking for in another couple. Also, post pictures that are reasonably current. It will make for a more enjoyable first meeting if both couples have been honest in their profiles and the pictures of themselves. Needless to say, pictures that are ten or twenty years old are not acceptable.

Another issue that has arisen in some of our swinging experiences has been when one partner is actually not interested in swinging but has been "pushed" by his or her partner to give it a try. Bad idea. Never ever assume that your partner will be receptive once things start. We have had a few experiences that were pretty awful due to the fact that one of the partners was not interested in swinging. In our experience, it is usually the male half that is attempting to push his partner or spouse to swing.

Understanding what rules a couple has in regard to swinging is also important prior to playing. We as couple have very few rules but that varies from couple to couple. One of the most common rules that we come across is the no kissing rule. While it is odd to us, couples need to respect the rules of the other couple. It is wise as a couple to discuss among yourselves what rules you want to have in regard to swinging

Some of the most common rules are whether kissing is allowed, same room or separate room play, condoms or no condoms, and whether anal is ok. These are some of the frequent rules that we have encountered with other couples. It is always better to have discussed this by email or over the phone prior to playing instead of springing a set of rules when it is time to play.

Although it seems too obvious, it should be said that when meeting another couple, cleanliness is very important. No one wants to engage in play with a couple that does not practice good hygiene. Another area that sometimes occurs is a couple or one of the partners who drinks excessively. Needless to say that does not make for a great swinging experience and can lead to problems between the couples. It is always a good idea for the couples to express their preferences regarding drinking and smoking prior to meeting also.

If swingers will observe these basic rules, the swinging experience can be enjoyable and can lead to great relationships. After all, having sexual fun is what it's all about.